“I would never date or marry a man who sees escorts”. How many women would agree with that statement? It doesn’t take a degree in psychology to estimate that many women will identify with that viewpoint. Regardless of their level of religiosity, feminist women are just as inclined to hold this view. With most suggesting that a man who sees escorts in London is abusive to women on many levels. There is a strong religious and social bias against the idea of a man, especially one in a marriage, seeing other women.
Interestingly enough, even women who consider themselves to be very modern and liberated suddenly become highly restrictive. especially when it comes to the idea of their significant other spending time with other women. Why? While women have powerful and vocal feelings on this subject, when you ask them why they hold these views, they struggle to formulate a reason. Especially anything which goes beyond familiar one-dimensional arguments such as “it’s cheating” or “it’s disrespectful”.
What about men’s rights?
Women’s rights have come a long way in the last forty years. With the advent of birth control, women find themselves in a position which would have been unimaginable previously. Because they can now control falling pregnant, their dependence on having a reliable male has lessened considerably. Feminists have used this opportunity to argue vehemently for the rights of women to direct their own lives and to control their sexuality. There are very few women who would not at least pay lip service to the notion that a woman is entirely in charge of her body. And that men have no say when it comes to this.
On the face of it, there is nothing wrong with this attitude. Still, the more astute among you may recognise that while women’s rights to their sexuality are considered absolute, mainstream men’s sexuality is increasingly belittled and put in second place behind women’s needs.
The wrath of the modern woman
If a woman is entitled to enjoy her sexuality on her terms, why is it unacceptable that men’s desires are allowed free expression? It’s interesting to see that in a normal, healthy relationship, men are often fascinated with women’s fantasies. In fact, they are driven to find ways to satisfy the women in their lives. Still, most women have little time for men’s fantasies. Wives are more interested in controlling men’s dreams than in obliging them. The only imagination most people want to hear about is the one in which they are the only sexually attractive woman in the world. And if the man in their life thinks differently, then he has a problem.
Whether this attitude aligns with what men want or feel is irrelevant. The only opinion that matters is the one that comes attached to the XX chromosome. And if you disagree, you will have the wrath of the modern world against you.
